They are two markedly different kind of person.

The man is highly expressive in nature and he does so with a dramatic and natural flair that gives him a confidence and nobility that is apparent to all who is around him. This man craves all the best that life can afford him.

The woman is simply gracious, warm and affectionate with sprinkle of compassion and intelligence as well. She knows how the human heart loves and would never think of separating herself from such a beautiful quality. She can be naive and unrealistic about the world and other people, but it is simply because she is innocent and assumes the best of her surroundings. Love relationship brings out the best of her as she always fits to the mold of her lover and has the highest respect for her man. She is not much on expressing herself but she always gives it her best shot.

Both of them should understand the others’ level of dedication as well as trying to figure out their own.

This man likes to set the ways that the relationship goes. His authority shows through and the rules of the game are laid down. As confident and aggressive as he is, deep down him, he is still worried that his woman may take over, or try to. If this does not work for the woman, she may give up with the relationship. The only thing after this point that upsets him more than losing her is the fact that she didn’t take his advice on the matters at hand before going..

As with the time their trust and faith increases, they share one of the most compatible relationship. They both give each other the freedom and love; they crave for and promise to return to each other’s arms. While she gives the lessons of humbleness to him, he teaches her to be more focused and realistic. There are plenty of skies they glide over and plenty oceans they swim through to make their love stronger and reliable. She respects him and makes him feel bolder and more masculine while the shower of love and pamper given by him, makes her turn into a beautiful rose from a mere little bud. There is always an unspoken mystery in their love which God leaves to them to solve and cherish till eternity.

The initial attraction between them is strong and their sexual attraction is even stronger. Everything is beautiful and magical between them.....or it was.

Source: Ask Oracle

And it reminds me of my all time favorite quote by Plato:
"Be kind..for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.."

If only we can look at ourselves from other people's point of view,
I honestly think we would be a better person..

"If the sight of the blue skies fills you with joy, if a blade of grass springing up in the fields has power to move you, if the simple things of nature have a message that you understand,

Rejoice. For your soul is alive.."

Always remember to have a happy life..in your own way :)

We live in a world where achievement, job, status, reputation and money are the indicators of how successful we are. Everyone starts comparing each other. Why? Because they want to know who is better. Why? Because they want to be the better one. The question they ask is always "Who is richer?" or "Who did better?" or "Who has higher status?"

Well, we don't need to play by the rule of this world. The truth is, the most interesting people are those who can be the happiest, not the richest, or even the smartest. The happiest people don't need to ask "Who is happier?". Only insecured people always compare. They need acceptance from other to make sure they fulfill the expectation of the world.

Happy people, the true happy people, know how to enjoy every simple things in life no matter what people say, no matter what the world sees them. They don't need confirmation from others to make them officially happy. When they are happy, they know.

Repost from http://www.wilzkanadi.com/2013/07/dont-be-best-be-happiest.html?m=1#_=_

"If I am to be fallen into love, I will. And if as a result I will appear to be stupid, disillusioned, and poor of judgement, I will. And I would be damned if I cared what other people think. For I would rather be thought of as all of these things, than not love. If in loving, I become the naked woman on the horse, I will ride that horse with my head held high.
This is my spirit. I'm unbreakable."

Life of Pi (movie)

Plot :

A Canadian novelist named Yann Martel meets an Indian man, Pi Patel, with some knowledge from Pi's late father's friend, known to Pi as "Mamaji", for a good book. Pi tells the novelist his life story.

In a flashback, Pi's father named him Piscine Molitor after a swimming pool in France. By the time he reached secondary school, he changed his name to "Pi" (the Greek letter, π) because he was tired of being called "Pissing Patel" (due to the pronunciation of his name). Pi's family owned a zoo, and Pi took great interest in the animals, especially a Bengal tiger named Richard Parker. When Pi tries feeding the tiger, his father runs in and angrily tells him that the tiger is dangerous, and forces Pi to witness the tiger killing a goat to prove his point. Pi is raised Hindu and vegetarian, but at 12 years old, he is introduced to Christianity and then Islam, and decides to follow all three religions as he "just wants to love God". His mother supports his desire to grow, but his father, a rationalist, tries to convert him to his own way of thinking.

When Pi is 16, his father decides to move the family to Canada, where he intends to settle and sell the zoo animals. Pi's family books passage on a Japanese freighter named Tsimtsum. During a storm, the ship founders while Pi is on deck. He tries to find his family, but a member of the crew throws him into a lifeboat. As the ship falls into the sea, a freed zebra lands on the boat with him. Pi watches helplessly as the ship sinks, killing his family. After the storm, Pi finds himself in the lifeboat with the injured zebra, and is joined by an orangutan. A spotted hyena emerges from a tarp covering half of the boat and snaps at Pi, forcing him to retreat to the top of the tarp while it kills the zebra and orangutan. Later, Richard Parker emerges from under the tarp, killing the hyena.

Pi retrieves biscuits, water rations and a hand axe and builds a small raft to stay at a safe distance from Richard Parker. Pi begins fishing and is able to feed Richard Parker. He also collects rain water for them to drink. When the tiger jumps off to hunt fish, Pi considers letting it drown but ultimately helps it climb back into the boat. During a night-time encounter with a breaching humpback whale Pi loses much of his supplies, forcing him to eat fish for the first time in his life. Pi trains Richard Parker to accept him in the boat and realises that caring for the tiger is keeping him alive.

Weeks later they reach a floating island of edible plants, supporting a mangrove jungle, fresh water pools, and a large population of meerkats. Pi and Richard Parker eat and drink freely and regain strength. At night, the island transforms into a hostile environment: Richard Parker retreats to the lifeboat and the meerkats sleep in the trees while the fresh water pools turn acidic and digest the dead fish in the pools. Pi discovers that the island itself is carnivorous after finding a human tooth embedded in a flower. The next day, Pi and Richard Parker leave the island.

The lifeboat reaches the coast of Mexico. Pi is crushed that Richard Parker does not acknowledge him before disappearing into the jungle. Pi is rescued and brought to a hospital. Insurance agents for the freighter interview him, but do not believe his story and ask what "really" happened. Remembering an incident aboard the ship when the ship's cook insulted his family, he makes up a less fantastic account of sharing the lifeboat with his mother, a Buddhist sailor with a broken leg, and the cook. According to this story, the cook killed the sailor in order to eat him and use him as bait. In a later struggle, Pi's mother pushed her son to safety on a smaller raft before the cook stabbed her and threw her overboard. Pi later returned, took the knife and killed the cook.

Next, Yann notes the parallels between the two stories: the orangutan was Pi's mother, the zebra was the sailor, the hyena was the cook, and Richard Parker was Pi. Pi asks which story the writer prefers, and the writer chooses "the one with the tiger" because it is "the better story", to which Pi responds, "Thank you. And so it goes with God". Glancing at a copy of the insurance report, Yann sees that the agents wrote that Pi survived 227 days at sea with an adult Bengal tiger, meaning they had also chosen the more fantastic story to be the one recorded as the real story.

So, tonight I watched this movie for the second time. I remember watched this on cinema all by myself last year, and yes, I teared up. Like a lot. But I don't clearly remember how it felt..this time, I feel too emotional..and get so much deeper meaning that I can't see before.

Is this because many things have happened to me in this past year therefore I even have a different perspective over a movie?

Well, It's just sooo my kind of movie..where it talks about; belief, fate, God's shape, universe, human even animal soul, life lesson, and my all time favorite animal. I found myself astonished..by that I mean..what in the world people made a film that great and I didn't realize at the first place!

All those beautiful scenes, meaningful lines, stupendous and amazing thoughts, all packed in one and be a masterpiece for someone like me.

Anyway, I am actually writing this post right after I just got done watching the movie and it makes me can't arrange my word neatly. :)

Over all I just want to tell you guys that "Life of Pi" is a very recommended movie, if you're looking for a movie with a deep level of thinking and sparkling view , I could say it is one of the best, so far. :)

Memorable Quotes:

"Why would a God do that? Why would He send his own Son to suffer for the sins of ordinary people? | Because He loves us. God made himself approachable to us — human — so we could understand Him. We can't understand God in all His perfection. But we can understand God's Son, and his suffering, as we would a brother's. | That made no sense! Sacrificing the innocent to atone for the sins of the guilty. What kind of love is that? But this Son… I couldn't get Him out of my head."

"Thank you Vishnu, for introducing me to Christ. — I came to faith through Hinduism, and I found God's love through Christ. But God wasn't finished with me yet. God works in mysterious ways, and so it was he introduced himself again. This time by the name of Allah. — Allāhu Akbar. My Arabic was never very good, but the sound and feel of the words brought me closer to God. In performing salah, the ground I touched became holy ground, and I found a feeling of serenity and brotherhood."

"And how can he find his way if he does not choose a path? Listen, instead of leaping from one religion to the next, why not start with reason? In a few hundred years, science has taken us farther in understanding the universe than religion has in 10,000. | Science can teach us more about what is out there, but not what is in here(heart). |  I do not expect us to all agree about everything, but I would much rather have you believe in something I don't agree with than to accept everything blindly. And that begins with thinking rationally."

"Faith is a house with many rooms. | But no room for doubt? | Oh plenty, on every floor. Doubt is useful, it keeps faith a living thing. After all, you cannot know the strength of your faith until it is tested."

"Words are all I have left to hang on to. Everything's all mixed up, fragmented, can't tell daydreams, nightdreams from reality anymore."

"No one has seen that island since, and you'd never read about those trees in any book. And yet, if I hadn't found those shores I would have died, if I hadn't discovered that tooth I would have been lost alone forever. Even when God seemed to have abandoned me, he was watching. Even when He seemed indifferent to my suffering, He was watching and when I was beyond all hope of saving... He gave me rest and gave me a sign to continue my journey..."

"I wept like a child. Not because I was overwhelmed at having survived, although I was. I was weeping because Richard Parker left me so unceremoniously. It broke my heart. You know my father was right: Richard Parker never saw me as his friend. After all we had been through he didn't even look back. But I have to believe there was more in his eyes than my own reflection staring back at me. I know it, I felt it. Even if I can't prove it. You know, I left so much behind: my family, the zoo, India, Anandi. I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go. But what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye. I was never able to thank my father for all I learned from him. To tell him, without his lessons I would never have survived. I know Richard Parker's a tiger but I wish I had said, "It's over. We survived. Thank you for saving my life. I love you, Richard Parker. You'll always be with me. May God be with you." 

"I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye."

In the end..this movie makes me feel like..

I need to find my own journey..

to really understand the world..

to literally talk to universe..

and see my God..

Kahlil Gibran; "Cinta yang Agung"

Adalah ketika kamu menitikkan air mata, dan masih peduli terhadapnya..
Adalah ketika dia tidak mempedulikanmu, dan kamu masih menunggunya dengan setia..
Adalah ketika dia mencintai orang lain, dan kamu masih bisa tersenyum sembari berkata,
"Aku turut berbahagia untukmu’
Apabila cinta tidak berhasil..bebaskan dirimu..
Biarkan hatimu kembali melebarkan sayapnya, dan terbang ke alam bebas lagi..
Ingatlah, bahwa kamu mungkin menemukan cinta dan kehilangannya..tapi ketika cinta itu mati, kamu tidak perlu mati bersamanya..
Orang terkuat bukan mereka yang selalu menang..melainkan mereka yang tetap tegar ketika mereka jatuh
“Aku ingin mencintaimu dengan sederhana..”
 seperti kata yang tak sempat diucapkan kayu kepada api yang menjadikannya abu..
“Aku ingin mencintaimu dengan sederhana..”
seperti isyarat yang tak sempat dikirimkan awan kepada hujan yang menjadikannya tiada..

“..pabila cinta memanggilmu..ikutilah dia walau jalannya berliku-liku. Dan, pabila sayapnya merangkummu..pasrahlah serta menyerah..walau pedang tersembunyi di sela sayap itu melukaimu..”

And everybody deserves a second chance..

:)

"Eksplisit membuat semua orang mengerti, dan sedikit yg memahami.

Implisit membuat semua orang berpikir, dan sedikit yg menjiwai."

- Sunlita Citra

For Katarsis Larva (1)

Reinkarnasi

By : Pishella Suryoputri

cc: Writing Club Psikologi - Event

Wahai, Semesta..

Penguasa bagi segala yang nyata dan fana..

Andai boleh aku bertanya,

Namun janganlah kau murka..

Jika dapat kau katakan

Apa aku berbuat kesalahan

Siapa aku di masa lalu

Hingga kini ku jadi benalu

Untuk hidupku sendiri

Parasit bagi sosok yang rumit

Berbelit hingga semua terasa pahit

Aku benci menjadi empati

Aku lelah menjadi pasrah

Berulang kali aku diberi kesempatan hidup

Dengan kekuatan yang tak kunjung redup

Hingga aku terpaksa menjadi tertutup

Bukan aku tak bersyukur

Tapi jiwa-jiwa ini semakin lebur

Dalam dunia yang penuh takabur

Alam yang sulit mengerti arti kata jujur

Seringkali aku lemah dan termangu

Menanggung perih yang bahkan bukan punyaku

Ingin rasanya berontak..

Namun bukan tugasku tuk menggertak

Memendam apa yang kudengar

Suara hati dan hingar bingar

Berbagai dimensi ku arungi

Menjadi saksi lapisan kehidupan yang terjebak hingga masa kini

Mereka tak mengerti,

Mereka tak memahami..

Tapi itulah mereka yang tak mau membuka mata..

Biarlah paham dengan cara pemaknaannya

Terkadang..

Ketika otak sedang kehilangan sinkronisasinya dengan hati, ya jadi begini..

Hasrat melompat, terbebas dari dunia yang selalu memberi batas,

Lari dari semua sinergi yang terus melingkari kemanapun aku pergi

Mungkin..

Aku hanya merindukan masa ku sebelumnya, ketika aku menjadi siapa..

Saat itu aku memilih melintasi malam, menanti rembulan atau lampu dan cahaya..

Saat manusia sudah tak bisa lagi memaklumi isi hati nurani

Kembali aku berteman dengan sunyi

Menyadari tak seorangpun mampu lari dari kenyataan

Atau memilih tempat kita akan dilahirkan

Yang dapat kulakukan hanyalah bertahan

Sambil terus menjalankan kewajiban

Tuhan punya rencana, dan aku percaya

Walau takdir terus mempermainkan dan tertawa

Menampar diri dengan kepahitan realita

Untuk menyadarkan aku ini siapa..

Dan kepada jiwa-jiwa yang terluka..

Bersabarlah, hingga kehidupan berikutnya..

Sambil terus berjuang bersama..

 

Unexpressed thoughts kill..

"Unexpressed emotions will never die.

They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways."

-Sigmund Freud

Seandainya segala pikiran-pikiran gila ini dapat tertuang dengan mudah.
Khayalan, ide-ide, kepercayaan.

Karena itulah, saya kagum dengan orang-orang di luar sana, seniman, penulis, dan siapapun yang dapat dengan cerdas mengemukakan pendapatnya, mengkatarsiskan perasaannya melalui suatu karya.

Rasanya, begitu banyak yang ingin diutarakan, namun terlalu rumit untuk ditata.

Hasrat untuk menuliskan mengenai hal-hal yang dianggap menarik dan saat membicarakannya membuat saya merasa hidup,

Filosofi dualisme dan trialisme; Reinkarnasi; Past Life Regression; Mitologi Yunani; Chakra; Pandangan pribadi tentang Agama dan kepercayaan; Old Soul; Hukum-hukum Alam; teori-teori Psikologi; tokoh-tokoh inspiratif kesukaan seperti Carl Jung, Mother Theresa, Socrates, Dalai Lama; Pengalaman; Emosi; Mimpi; Cita; Cinta; atau bahkan sekedar membahas puisi-puisi, film-film, buku-buku..

Pada akhirnya, saya tidak dapat menemukan jawaban apapun untuk merekonstruksi ulang keinginan berasertif tersebut, selain mulai mengurutkannya pelan-pelan.
Sebelum semua menyerang balik.

I'm not a genius, I guess I just need a little time,

as I am the one who's having an infinite mind..

-Pishella Suryoputri- 

My heart has a mind of its own - Christian Bautista

 Listen to the song

People try and tell me that its crazy
You and I were never meant to be
I don't believe they know,
and even if it's so
I'm fallen anyway, no matter what they say.

A part of me is taking me by the hand
The world can't see
Still they can't understand
Why can't they understand..

My heart has a mind of its own
Right or wrong its gonna do
Only what it feels is true
I'll follow it wherever it goes
Anywhere it leads me to..
My heart has a mind, mind of its own.

Maybe we won't always be together
Maybe this'll last a thousand year
Ain't nobody knows, and even if they did
It wouldn't matter now
I'd love you anyhow..

My heart knows what I'm needing
My heart knows what I'm feeling
It knows me better than I know myself
My heart knows what I'm missing
All I have to do is listen
And listen well..

Universe Law. Another kind of life perspective.

As someone who is honestly putting her belief not only into one religion but the law of universe which she had chosen as her life guide, here I want to share some of its eternal pattern so I could probably give and share some new perspective for the readers..as I hope. Not to ask you to put or hold the same value on it like me..it's more like to show, that even some people have the view to think there is more holistic perception of self, life and everything as part of a bigger picture. And those untouchable tiny part of the world that exist..

I ever told one before, about the Law of Attraction, and here's more..

(Source: http://www.naderashchi.com/sevenlaws.html)

		The Law of Gender. Every “seed” has a gestation period.
		The Law of Cause and Effect. What goes around comes around.
		The Law of Relativity. Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
		The Law of Perpetual Transmutation. Energy moves into physical form.
		The Law of Polarity. Everything has an opposite.
		The Law of Vibration. Everything vibrates. Nothing rests.
		The Law of Rhythm. This too shall pass.
1. The Law of Gender The law of gender translates that every seed has a gestation or incubation period. Ideas are spiritual seeds and will move into form or physical results. If you “choose” to believe this, you can watch your life change. Your goals will manifest in the perfect time. Deep in your heart, you must know that they will.
2. The Law of Cause and Effect Whatever you send into the universe comes back. Every action, has an equal and opposite reaction. Say good things to everyone; treat everyone with total respect, and it will all come back to you. Never worry about what you are going to get. Just concentrate on what you can give and give it unconditionally. Treat everyone with total respect. What goes around comes around. If you squeeze an orange, you will get orange juice. Like causes always produce like effects. See “The Juicer” section in the “Core Principles” section.
3. The Law of Relativity Nothing is good or bad until you relate it to something. Practice relating your situation to something worse, and yours will always look good. If you practice relating your situation to something better, yours will always look worse. Nothing is good or bad until you relate it to something. Imagine three bank accounts: the first with $150 in it, the second with $150,000, and the third with $150,000,000. None of them are large, and none are small unless you compare them to a larger or smaller account.
4. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation In his book, The Science of Getting Rich, author Wallace D. Wattles talks about the law of perpetual transmutation. “Man instinctively knows this, and therefore he is forever seeking more. This law of perpetual increase is set forth by God in the parable of the talents: Only those who gain more retain any; from him who has not shall be taken away even that which he has.” Simply put, energy from the formless realm is constantly flowing into the material world and taking form. This energy is limitless and inexhaustible. As old forms are exhausted, they give way for new forms to emerge from the invisible hidden energy of the universe. The formless energy is amenable to being shaped by our minds and is the ultimate source of all wealth. Hence, in a very real sense, every person in this world is wealthy by birth because each of us is connected to that source of infinite supply. The only problem is that the great majority does not know how to tap into it and bring it into manifestation. Hence, they remain impoverished. It is not circumstance or upbringing that does it. It is sheer ignorance of the reality of our own wealth and how easily we could tap into it if we just tried. In any area of endeavor, you will often find two people with almost identical talent and opportunity: one is a roaring success; the other is going nowhere. You may see two almost identical businesses: one is going from strong to stronger; the other is almost bankrupt. Why? The answer lies in how successfully we can tap into the law of perpetual transmutation and manifest from the formless according to our desires. Rather than constantly immersing yourself in the world of effects, i.e., the material world, more of your focus should go into the world of causes. The first step to doing this is simply awareness. Meditating regularly on the law of perpetual transmutation can help you make it a living belief for you. Then place yourself between the flow. See the vast infinite energy flowing from the formless through you and manifesting into form beneath you.
5. The Law of Polarity Everything has an opposite: hot, cold; up, down; good, bad. Constantly look for the good in people and situations. When you find it, tell the person. People love compliments, and the positive idea in your mind makes you feel good. Remember, good idea, good vibrations. Always recognize the opposite and then pick what you want to concentrate on, remembering law number 4.
6. The Law of Vibration Everything vibrates. Nothing rests. Conscious awareness of vibration is called “feeling.” How do you feel? Your thoughts control your paradigms and your vibrations. When you are not feeling good, become aware of what you are thinking and then think of something pleasant. Remember again law number 4. The tide goes out. Night follows day. Good times, bad times. When you are on a downswing, do not feel bad. Know the swing will change and things will get better. There are good times coming. Think of them.
7. The Law of Rhythm Some of the things the law of rhythm affects are the tide that goes out and comes back. Night follows day. There is good in everything, and there is bad. Don’t feel the bad in the downswing without realizing that good times are coming. Remember again law number 4. Baha'u'llah says, “Sorrow not if, in these days and on this earthly plane, things contrary to your wishes have been ordained and manifested by God, for days of blissful joy, of heavenly delight, are assuredly in store for you.”

These are not laws that can be broken without steep consequences. If you know the laws, you obey the laws. If you use the laws, you will succeed. Whether something goes right or something goes wrong, you can refer to these laws. The people who have not gotten what their heart desires have gone against one or more of these laws. Don’t let this happen to you. read and learn all about the laws that affect you on this life..

 “We all - whether naturalists, atheists, Moslem, Buddhists, or Christians -

see the world through the grid of an interpretive framework - and ultimately this interpretive framework is religious in nature, even if not allied with a particular institutional religion.”
-James Smith

"This life is for loving, sharing, smiling, caring, helping, learning.. I choose to live my life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning,

the devil says; shit, she is up!"

(Special Thanks to Panti Asuhan Tunas Harapan)

How introvert sees.. As I might happen to be one.

I woke all the way up from my bed to open my laptop at this hour(3:24am) just because I can't stop wondering about being an introvert thingy. Anyway, I just read my senior tweets that talks about being an introverts which really attracted me (not only because i'm one of them), but yesterday, I just met someone I barely know, it also got me thinking..though it rarely happens, but when I do, I always end up feel like..meet new people has always been such a challenging thing to me, how interesting it is to do some attribution and get to know more about what kind of person exists in this world. As a psychology student, I learned that essentially, being an introvert is such a person who'd rather to be alone than in crowd, or as people roughly known, introverts are so full of themselves and don't like people. BUT it is so much more than that.

Before I understand that there are appellations for these kind of human type, (introvert, extrovert even ambivert), I knew that there's something different with my self if I compare to another people, in this case, about being such a genuine introvert. I prefer spending time alone or with one/two close friends, I concentrate best when alone, I feel that I gain energy and strength from being alone. I don't even care every time people said "what so good about eating alone at restaurant?", "you like to travel somewhere all by yourself? don't you have any friend?", "are you an anti-social?", and so forth.

I would love to meet people, I would love to spend my time with people whom I love, I called it forever  independent instead of forever alone. I don't even think about that so called "me time", cause I know it always been My Time. Means, I realized that I own my-time, and I really know how to spend it, what I want to do, who I want to meet.

I searched many information about this, and the more I get to know better, the more I understand what is actually the answer of my questions about the odd thoughts of my own self all this time. And turns out, now I don't feel weird at all but awesome. Here are some explanation about it:

Introvert Definition: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert. Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people. Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge." When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective. Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

(Source: http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/introvert.htm)

Introverts face challenges in the meeting-people arena. For one, speaking very generally, we tend not to be big risk takers. We're not likely to strike up conversations just for the hell of it because we're so averse to banal conversation. We turn down invitations we're not gung-ho about, which may cause us to limit our socializing to the same people. We take a while to decide about people and warm up to them, which means meeting someone interesting at a party may or may not go anywhere because our time with them is limited.

So we need to be aware of ways we might get in our own way. Sometimes you just have to stick your neck out either by reaching out to people, or by somehow making yourself appear approachable.

(Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/201202/survey-says-how-meet-new-people)

And this is what I said before, interesting thoughts that I couldn't agree more or less. Written by my senior:

"Being introvert is hard, we're living in the world with majority of extrovert, the world that loves to talk when what we need is silence. The worst talker is the one who bragging their life, which is actually not an life-accomplishment. I mean who wants to hear your perception of braggable (its not a word, but you know) stuff in your life, some of them are not even worth it. What I hate is, because extroverts is a majority, the introverts one is consider to be weird or not normal. Just because we don't like to go to party, meeting a group of people, or saying hi everytime we meet friends, doesn't mean we're weird. We do like talking... but when we comfortable with the person, when its not... why bother? And some of us even really good in leading or even publicly speaking. Just don't force us to be an extrovert like the rest of you... you're all not that good.. As an introvert, I don't like small talk, not because I don't like people, but I don't feel comfort without the intimacy. I prefer what really want to know, a meaningful one. I don't blame extroverts at all, just some of them who like to force introverts to be one of them. There is nothing wrong about being an introverts or extroverts, both has their own profits and disadvantages. One more thing, research has found that introverts exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information, as compared to extroverts."

(Source: https://twitter.com/arlogy)

And you can open this one for Indonesian version I found that talks about it:

http://ndesofilms.wordpress.com/2012/10/28/memahami-orang-orang-bertipe-introvert/

So, that's all..

I guess what i'm trying to say is..

Everybody's got their stuff, whether it's being an introvert or extrovert..

Just don't ever judge someone before you really know who they are. No one is perfect..

we may don't like someone's behavior,  all we can do is trying to understand what's behind them that makes thing happened that way. Open our eyes, heart, mind.. so we wouldn't underestimate someone or something anymore.

And, Chillax! Cause as long as we can appreciate who we are, we can love ourselves and live nicely.

:D 

With love and concern,

-Pishella Suryoputri-

And they do heal every bad thoughts..that's why I love to be around 'em.

"Babies are soft. Anyone looking at them can see the tender, fragile skin and know it for the roseleaf softness that invites a finger's touch."

"Mungkin, hidup lebih baik dari yang kita bayangkan, tapi kita tidak lebih baik dari yang kita pikirkan"

Katie kind of woman

Carrie : It's just.. uh.. why her. I mean..really..why her?
Miranda : One word, Hubble
Carrie : Oh my God, it is! it is so Hubble!
Samantha : Who's Hubble?
Carrie : Hubble! Robert Hubble in "The Way We Were"
Charlotte : Oh, I love that movie..
Samantha : Never saw it. Tell me
Miranda : Ok, Robert Hubble is madly in love with the girl named Katie. But he can't be with her because she's too complicated, and powerful. So he leaves her and marry this..ughhh simple, normal girl.
Carrie : Ladies. now I get it.. The world is made up of two types of woman. The simple girl, and the Katie girl. I am the Katie girl.

-Sex and the City, Season 2 Eps. 18-

With what i've been through just today, like.. trapped in a similar situation. When someone is dying to be married with him immediately just so she can prove and brag to me that she owns him. She believes that no matter what, he is belong to her, he only wants to marry her, his heart is hers.

But I know, with everything that has happened, no matter how often he convinces me that he also loves me, he will eventually choose her over me, so she's right.

I ask myself, why? And I remember the way he said..

"however, you are complicated, critical, smart, you are too hard to be handled. you go with your own way and no one can ever command you. you have something that no other woman has", and at another time he said.. "to be with her.. she's just.. prospective. she's the rightest for me."

And I realized..

"Pada akhirnya, kebanyakan laki-laki hanya akan memilih wanita biasa. Wanita yang mudah untuk dia kendalikan. Karena laki-laki terlalu takut, bahwa tahtanya sebagai kepala akan berada dibawah apabila bersama wanita yang hanya ia kagumi. Mereka mencari apa itu aman. Dan jika suatu saat nanti, akan ada laki-laki yang mampu bertahan dan bertaruh untuk tetap bersama wanita tangguh, ia lah laki-laki pemberani yang sesungguhnya. Yang cepat atau lambat, akan meluluhkan kekuatan wanita manapun dan tetap berada di atas"

-Pishella Suryoputri-

It's just all in your mind..

"As you think so shall you be. Since you cannot physically experience another person, you can only experience them in your mind. Conclusion: All of the other people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind. Not physically beings to you, but thoughts. Your relationships are all in how you think about the other people in your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind. Your feelings about your lovers come from your thoughts. For example, they may in fact behave in ways that you find offensive. However, your relationship to them when they behave offensively is not determined by their behavior, it is determined only by how you choose to relate to that behavior. Their actions are theirs, you cannot own them, you cannot be them, you can only process them in your mind."